An excellent post Kate, know the truth and the truth will make you free. That doesn't mean being free is easy. Far from it, following the truth can be the hardest thing to do at the time. It's even tougher when you have kids and want to teach them leadership and self worth. Sometimes the truth is the hardest decision but usually always the best decision. You are wise to let the emotional response drift away and act from a place of clarity and calm. Love based decisions usually are the best decisions... Great job, looking forward to more... Peace...
Much love, Kate. Thank you. I can definitely relate to almost everything you said here.. I had to do a similar self inventory when my childrens mother hurt me so deeply, I still can't understand the why's and the how's someone can do extremely hurtful things to people who love them.. but I took the advice from some very wise people, and I fought for everything with integrity, from a positive of love, and with everyone's best interest at heart. It was painful, and cost me a fortune.. but the Universe(God) did make things right, eventually. I prayed for her, and I kept building my life around self-esteem.. which means that I have to do esteemable (yes, I made that up) things.. what she did to me was brutal, but I stuck with the truth, my love for my kids, and I built a life worth living..
I also had to look at my own childhood trauma to find some things about myself that I was actually attracted to the kind of narcissist that I grew up with.. I always sought the approval of people who would never give it.
I could go on about the details, but maybe some other time..
Anyways Kate, much love and respect. Keep going young lady 💪🏻🫡🥰😎🙏🏻 you know you aren't alone.
Well said, Kate. I have always appreciated your candid authenticity and unique perspective. You deserve the best and should always remember your worth and the value you lend to your son, your family and friends, and your audience.
So, Ms. Kate, are you seeking justice? I would hope that you do. I don't know all the ins and outs of the whole J thing, I do know meeting both of you, together years ago in Nashville Thread Fest and again in Cocoa Beach, things were weird. I quit following BL because of J and the vibes he gives and ultimately what he did to you. Although I'm still not sure what exactly happened, I know I don't care for him at all. I do know that God will see you through this. Seek The Father always. Blessings to you and River. I pray for J too even though I don't want to. <3 Mo
Kate, you’ve given us a well written and thoughtful assessment of a complex and powerfully emotional issue. I’m so glad that you’ve brought yourself to a decision point on how to proceed and pursue some closure.
Just recall, however, that stimulus always brings a response. Not just for yourself, but also for all those in your life. You clearly understand this because you covered it well in your piece.
Responses tend to come in a cascade of events and largely unpredictable consequences.
A suggestion from an old guy … stay REALLY, absolutely clinical in your strategic and tactical decisions on all the aspects of your actions going forward.
That approach seems to put a set of fairly predictable boundaries on the potential blowback coming out of our stimuli on any given set of dynamics.
Firefighters do go into deadly serious conditions and circumstances, that’s true.
But they gear up in the precise armor required and take the tools and equipment required to protect themselves and terminate combustion processes.
And they do it as a team of trusted, trained compatriots with more backup and equipment than required waiting for them right outside the door should they need reinforcement.
And they’re generally carrying a talisman of their Faith close to their hearts as they make entry. ❤️
Beautiful article Kate. 💜 I noticed all these beautiful qualities in you the first time I listened to you on Tuesday nights 🤗 Don’t let anyone distinguish your light. You are such a beautiful soul. 🫶🙏
Oh my goodness Kate...you have touched my heart deeply with your discernment, wisdom, and love. I sincerely believe you have helped many people by sharing this, me included...thank you!
Beautiful article, and very well written! I love this topic (as you know). It's a great search within us for what is right and what is wrong. You did the right thing! Your son will be so proud to have a mother like you. ❤️
Good for you, Kate don’t let anybody walk on you. Through way ASAP we can stand up for ourselves and not be martyrs. I had someone pointed out to me years ago. Did I like being a martyr when I just thought I was being nice. I believe you are strong and smart. As long as you don’t get emotional you can battle as soon as we take their opinion personally, we start to get emotional . Learning the battlefield learning how to not take take things personal and keeping your thoughts. Clear helps us express ourselves much better turn the other cheek not so much anymore.. unless someone is truly sorry
I am glad you addressed this. It needed to be said and you did it with grace and introspection. You have a lot of people lifting you up.
An excellent post Kate, know the truth and the truth will make you free. That doesn't mean being free is easy. Far from it, following the truth can be the hardest thing to do at the time. It's even tougher when you have kids and want to teach them leadership and self worth. Sometimes the truth is the hardest decision but usually always the best decision. You are wise to let the emotional response drift away and act from a place of clarity and calm. Love based decisions usually are the best decisions... Great job, looking forward to more... Peace...
Much love, Kate. Thank you. I can definitely relate to almost everything you said here.. I had to do a similar self inventory when my childrens mother hurt me so deeply, I still can't understand the why's and the how's someone can do extremely hurtful things to people who love them.. but I took the advice from some very wise people, and I fought for everything with integrity, from a positive of love, and with everyone's best interest at heart. It was painful, and cost me a fortune.. but the Universe(God) did make things right, eventually. I prayed for her, and I kept building my life around self-esteem.. which means that I have to do esteemable (yes, I made that up) things.. what she did to me was brutal, but I stuck with the truth, my love for my kids, and I built a life worth living..
I also had to look at my own childhood trauma to find some things about myself that I was actually attracted to the kind of narcissist that I grew up with.. I always sought the approval of people who would never give it.
I could go on about the details, but maybe some other time..
Anyways Kate, much love and respect. Keep going young lady 💪🏻🫡🥰😎🙏🏻 you know you aren't alone.
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Well said, Kate. I have always appreciated your candid authenticity and unique perspective. You deserve the best and should always remember your worth and the value you lend to your son, your family and friends, and your audience.
Kate, I'm in full agreement with Kathleen's thoughts in writing -- God's blessings on you and yours always, Kel
What a beautiful and wise piece of writing. (Writers know the distinction--it could have been wise and not beautiful!)
So, Ms. Kate, are you seeking justice? I would hope that you do. I don't know all the ins and outs of the whole J thing, I do know meeting both of you, together years ago in Nashville Thread Fest and again in Cocoa Beach, things were weird. I quit following BL because of J and the vibes he gives and ultimately what he did to you. Although I'm still not sure what exactly happened, I know I don't care for him at all. I do know that God will see you through this. Seek The Father always. Blessings to you and River. I pray for J too even though I don't want to. <3 Mo
You are stronger than you know. You have an amazing talent for making people feel the depth of your message. Keep writing.
Kate, you’ve given us a well written and thoughtful assessment of a complex and powerfully emotional issue. I’m so glad that you’ve brought yourself to a decision point on how to proceed and pursue some closure.
Just recall, however, that stimulus always brings a response. Not just for yourself, but also for all those in your life. You clearly understand this because you covered it well in your piece.
Responses tend to come in a cascade of events and largely unpredictable consequences.
A suggestion from an old guy … stay REALLY, absolutely clinical in your strategic and tactical decisions on all the aspects of your actions going forward.
That approach seems to put a set of fairly predictable boundaries on the potential blowback coming out of our stimuli on any given set of dynamics.
Firefighters do go into deadly serious conditions and circumstances, that’s true.
But they gear up in the precise armor required and take the tools and equipment required to protect themselves and terminate combustion processes.
And they do it as a team of trusted, trained compatriots with more backup and equipment than required waiting for them right outside the door should they need reinforcement.
And they’re generally carrying a talisman of their Faith close to their hearts as they make entry. ❤️
Godspeed, Kate. And He’s got your six.
Beautiful article Kate. 💜 I noticed all these beautiful qualities in you the first time I listened to you on Tuesday nights 🤗 Don’t let anyone distinguish your light. You are such a beautiful soul. 🫶🙏
What did he do to you?
That was awesome Kate
Oh my goodness Kate...you have touched my heart deeply with your discernment, wisdom, and love. I sincerely believe you have helped many people by sharing this, me included...thank you!
This 'stack hit me right in the feels.
Well done, Kate.
Also, that REM song is now stuck in my head... thanks. lol
Beautiful article Kate! Everything you wrote is so true. I can relate to that in my own life. Thanks for writing the article Kate!!!❤️😊
Beautiful article, and very well written! I love this topic (as you know). It's a great search within us for what is right and what is wrong. You did the right thing! Your son will be so proud to have a mother like you. ❤️
Good for you, Kate don’t let anybody walk on you. Through way ASAP we can stand up for ourselves and not be martyrs. I had someone pointed out to me years ago. Did I like being a martyr when I just thought I was being nice. I believe you are strong and smart. As long as you don’t get emotional you can battle as soon as we take their opinion personally, we start to get emotional . Learning the battlefield learning how to not take take things personal and keeping your thoughts. Clear helps us express ourselves much better turn the other cheek not so much anymore.. unless someone is truly sorry